Ep 132 - Boundaries & Balance—Why You Feel Stuck and How to Fix It

Do you ever feel like you’re being pulled in a million directions, trying to keep everyone happy while you're almost out of gas? 

If saying "no" feels impossible and you're constantly overwhelmed, you’re in the right place.

In this episode of More Than Anxiety, I'm talking about boundaries.

Why they’re so hard, 

Why they matter, and 

How they can help you feel calmer and more in control.

Here’s what you'll learn:

✨ Why overthinkers struggle with boundaries.

✨ How overcommitting and weak boundaries keep you anxious, stressed and stuck.

✨ How to set boundaries without guilt or overexplaining yourself.

✨ How to find the area of your life that needs your attention the most using the Boundaries and Balance Audit

✨ How saying no creates space for more joy and new opportunities.  

If you're tired of feeling overworked and exhausted and you're ready to have more time and energy, this episode is for you. 

Enjoy!

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Transcript

00:00:12.070 --> 00:00:39.490 Megan Devito: Hey everybody! Welcome to episode 132 of More Than Anxiety. I'm so excited that you're here this week. If we've not met before, my name is Megan. I am a life coach, and I help high achieving women learn to manage the stress and the anxiety inside of their bodies so that they can stop overthinking, so that they can hold boundaries, so they can stop people pleasing, and really feel confident about themselves, to have a calm sense in their body, so that they can do the things they want to do and to find success in their personal life and in their careers.

00:00:39.490 --> 00:00:46.089 Today I want to talk to you about boundaries and balance, and why you feel stuck and how you can fix it.

00:00:46.120 --> 00:00:56.949 So if you feel like you're constantly pulled in a million directions, and you're trying to keep everybody in your life happy while you're barely taking care of yourself, this episode is for you.

00:00:56.970 --> 00:01:20.169 Today, we're talking about boundaries. We're talking about balance. And we're talking about why the very things that you think will make you feel better are actually making you feel worse. We do this a lot with things; we have these very complex coping mechanisms. I guess, is what I'm looking at there, like, oh no, I do this. It helps me feel better every time.

00:01:20.170 --> 00:01:46.639 So many of the time those things actually make us feel more stressed and more anxious. So let's start with talking about why, as an overthinker, you might struggle with boundaries. Because my guess is that if you think too much, boundaries are a major issue for you, and I say that with all the love in the world, because, as a person who sometimes overthinks, or often overthinks, I'll notice when my boundaries are getting jiggly. So let's figure it out.

00:01:47.520 --> 00:02:05.950 I used to say yes to a lot of things that I didn't really want to do, because I felt like it was responsible of me, because a good person would help those people. I should give all the things that I have: all my time, all my energy, all my stuff, all the things, because that's what a good person would do.

00:02:06.200 --> 00:02:07.810 And that is not true at all.

00:02:07.980 --> 00:02:25.760 So what I thought was it would make other people happy. It would keep the peace. Nobody would be mad. And, you guys, I was resentful, like grouchy. I didn't want to do the things I was saying yes to. I was like showing up as a grouchy mess. Honestly, like, Okay, I'm here. How long until we're done?

00:02:26.180 --> 00:02:50.059 That's not how people want you to volunteer, by the way, and that's not the way you want to feel when you're volunteering to do something. You want to volunteer for things that get you excited and that feel joyful. So that was a little bit of my story. I also had a lot of times where I would say yes, because I felt anxious or stressed out, or guilty about saying no. That's also going to come up in this episode. We'll talk about all of it. So I just want to check in with you guys really quickly. Does any of this sound familiar?

00:02:50.730 --> 00:02:59.150 Have you got this mile-long to-do list that no matter what you do, no matter how much you cross off, it's still there, and it's still getting longer?

00:02:59.360 --> 00:03:12.300 Are you bending over backward for your neighbor, your coworker, your sister, your cousin, your best friend, your spouse, your kids, your church, your kids' schools, your kids' sports?

00:03:13.510 --> 00:03:35.880 And at the end of the day are you exhausted? And you don't have any time for yourself or any energy left to take care of yourself? Because if that sounds like you, that's not okay. You don't deserve to live that way. You can still be a giving and a kind and a caring person who volunteers at things and takes care of business and does all the stuff without being exhausted and without feeling like crap, honestly.

00:03:36.050 --> 00:03:47.089 So when you're stuck in this pattern, we're going to talk about why breaking your own boundaries feels so good for like a teeny tiny little bit of time, but how it also leads you to feel burnout and overwhelmed,

00:03:47.260 --> 00:03:59.690 and what you can do instead to create those balances and those boundaries without feeling guilty, because you do not need to feel guilty for liking something and not liking something else.

00:03:59.890 --> 00:04:05.290 It's sort of like saying I feel so guilty that I like peas, but I don't like broccoli, or that I like broccoli, but I don't like peas.

00:04:06.660 --> 00:04:20.879 No, think of it in that simple of terms. No one feels guilty because they don't like broccoli unless your grandma asks you a million times, and tells you that hers is the best, and that you should eat it, and then you don't want to hurt grandma's feelings. That's a little difference, isn't it? Because you just had a thought about it?

00:04:21.110 --> 00:04:25.719 All right. So let's talk about the problem with no boundaries. I don't have any boundaries.

00:04:25.830 --> 00:04:33.810 This is why you are overwhelmed and overthinking, and why everything feels out of balance. Did you know that this is exactly what is happening?

00:04:34.500 --> 00:04:48.989 So what happens when you don't have boundaries? What happens is that you overcommit yourself, and you start saying yes to things that you don't want to say yes to, because you don't want to hurt someone else's feelings, or because, "What if everything falls apart without me?"

00:04:49.630 --> 00:05:19.220 And then you feel drained, like, "I did not have the emotional bandwidth for this, but I said yes anyway." So you're exhausted. So you go home and your kids ask you to help them with their homework. And you're like, "You know what? I just... I'm so tired." So you snap at them, or your husband's like, "Hey, I just made plans. I invited the neighbors over. We're going to grill out." And then you're really mad because you do not have the energy to entertain, to clean your house, and to make food for the neighbors. "But they're bringing food!" I still don't want to do it.

00:05:20.130 --> 00:05:31.680 And then you start overthinking every decision. "Why did I even say yes to that to begin with? Why did I just snap at my kids? Why can't I just be the mom that can do the homework? Why does this stress me out when the neighbors come over, when I love the neighbors?"

00:05:32.490 --> 00:05:38.299 So your anxiety goes up because this time that you have at home is not your time.

00:05:38.540 --> 00:05:52.810 Because you're already overcommitted in every other area of your life. It needs to be your time at home. You need to have this place, a sanctuary, a safe space, a quiet place where you can be yourself, just you as a human.

00:05:53.030 --> 00:05:59.969 Not as a mom, not as a spouse, not as an employee or a business owner, or anything else. Just you doing what you need to do to take care of yourself.

00:06:03.600 --> 00:06:13.789 Another thing that can happen when you don't hold boundaries is that you start resenting the people that you love, right? All of a sudden you're resenting your husband. You're resenting your kids. You're resenting the neighbors because they wanted to hang out with you.

00:06:14.540 --> 00:06:18.149 They just keep expecting you to say yes, because you've done it for so long.

00:06:18.630 --> 00:06:21.460 And they're excited about that because they really like you.

00:06:22.360 --> 00:06:26.610 You're tired and it's not working. You don't have any space for yourself.

00:06:26.750 --> 00:06:34.180 You don't have time for any hobbies. I mean, if you wanted to put in a garden, that's not getting done. You wanted to learn to speak Spanish? That's not getting done.

00:06:34.420 --> 00:06:37.810 You wanted to be able to travel more? Nope, that's not happening either.

00:06:37.990 --> 00:06:43.629 Your rest, your dreams, all of it. This all comes from not having a boundary around your time or your energy.

00:06:44.700 --> 00:06:49.049 So what I want you to think about really quick here, this is just like a real quick reality check.

00:06:49.170 --> 00:06:52.639 If balance isn't about time management, what is it about?

00:06:54.710 --> 00:06:57.700 We all have the same 24 hours in a day, right?

00:06:58.730 --> 00:07:00.960 Why do some people have more time than others?

00:07:01.310 --> 00:07:03.480 It's about where you focus your energy.

00:07:04.070 --> 00:07:05.490 That's what it's about.

00:07:06.410 --> 00:07:15.749 So let's talk about why we break our boundaries. So first, let's talk about...we talked about why we don't have them at all. Now let's talk about why you create them, then break them.

00:07:15.970 --> 00:07:24.279 This is what's keeping you stuck, and I'm going to tell you a way that I can help you get out of this in half an hour. It's super simple. But let's start with why it's happening.

00:07:24.380 --> 00:07:28.999 You have this really quick sense of relief. Right, like, "I dodged a bullet."

00:07:29.220 --> 00:07:35.250 So someone asks you to dog sit their dog for the weekend.

00:07:35.490 --> 00:07:45.190 So let's say you don't even really like dogs that well. You're like, "They're fine. I don't dislike them, but I don't want one at my house." And they're like, "Can they come stay at your house?" And you say yes.

00:07:45.510 --> 00:08:06.499 Because you don't want to hurt their feelings, and you're sure their dog is fine. Their dog's always been fine at their house. "I just... I mean, I don't want it at my house. But yes, I'll do it." You say yes, and they're so grateful, they're so happy. "Thank you so much for watching our puppy while we're gone." And you feel really good, because, "Yes, look, they get to go. I feel good. It'll probably be fine." For 5 minutes.

00:08:06.710 --> 00:08:09.320 5 minutes, and then you're like, "Oh my God!"

00:08:09.470 --> 00:08:16.119 "I don't know what I just said yesterday. I don't know how to take care of a dog. What if it needs to go for a walk? What if it poops on the floor? What if it tears something up?"

00:08:16.260 --> 00:08:20.350 "What if I leave it and it's sad? What... I don't even know what to do with this. What if it doesn't eat?"

00:08:20.690 --> 00:08:23.889 But you said yes, because it felt really good to make them happy for a minute.

00:08:25.270 --> 00:08:34.749 Yikes. Now you're stuck with the dog, and you're starting to stress out about it because, "I don't know. Should I Google this? What do I do? Do I call the vet? Do I have to do something special?"

00:08:34.900 --> 00:08:47.970 "What if it doesn't eat? What if it... What if it's angry because it's not at its house?" You're starting to think a lot now, right, about all the things that could happen, and there's starting to be some resentment, like, "You know, but they know I don't have a dog. Why would they even ask me to watch their dog?"

00:08:48.100 --> 00:08:52.840 And suddenly you're exhausted. And you kind of want to cry. Because what just happened?

00:08:53.080 --> 00:08:55.340 How did this happen that I ended up with a dog?

00:08:56.310 --> 00:08:57.550 So why do you do this?

00:08:57.660 --> 00:09:16.030 Well, the first answer seems kind of obvious, maybe just to me. But people pleasing. You didn't want to upset your friend because you're a good friend, right? You're a good friend who wanted to be helpful, but you also didn't hold that boundary to... "I really can't do that. I'm sorry. I'm afraid you're going to have to call somebody else. It's just not my thing."

00:09:16.390 --> 00:09:19.299 Because that's a hard thing to say to your friends sometimes.

00:09:19.400 --> 00:09:29.850 You didn't want the conflict of them saying, "Come on, just this one time, please. I would do it for you." Yikes. That'

00:09:30.440 --> 00:09:45.650 And also another reason that could happen, not necessarily in the dog situation, is you could be invited to, let's say, go to a concert on a Thursday night, and you know you have a presentation Friday morning,and you say yes, because you don't want people to think that you don't care about them, and you don't want to miss out.
00:09:46.190 --> 00:09:48.950 FOMO is also a lack of boundaries.
00:09:49.720 --> 00:09:55.429 So this is all about the story that we tell ourselves: "If I say no, they'll be mad."
00:09:55.690 --> 00:10:01.749 That's just a thought, because if you say no, they might call their other friend, and then they'll be happy.
00:10:02.900 --> 00:10:17.630 "If I don't do it, nobody else will." I have this thing where I'm always the savior. "If I don't work in the church nursery, nobody else is going to say yes, so I guess it's up to me, otherwise the entire nursery will shut down. The kids won't have any place to go. The church will be empty, and that'll be it."
00:10:18.380 --> 00:10:22.620 That's not true. That's just a thought, but it feels real in the moment, doesn't it?
00:10:22.950 --> 00:10:27.170 Another one might be, "I don't want them to think I'm selfish, or that I don't care."
00:10:27.470 --> 00:10:32.639 "I don't want them to think I don't care about their problem, or that I'm being selfish for not saying yes."
00:10:33.550 --> 00:10:40.130 They might, and that's a tough...that's a tough pill to swallow sometimes. They might actually think that was kind of selfish of you.
00:10:40.600 --> 00:10:44.740 Or, "Gosh, I wish that, you know, I wish they cared a little more."
00:10:44.860 --> 00:10:54.339 That doesn't mean that's actually true. You can care about someone very much, and still say no. We do it to our kids all the time.
00:10:54.730 --> 00:11:01.950 Or we should be doing it to our kids all the time. We can love them like crazy. And some of the greatest things we can do for the people that we love is to tell them no.
00:11:03.090 --> 00:11:24.329 But it might be uncomfortable, and if you're not used to feeling uncomfortable feelings in your body and having to deal with them, you're more likely to break those boundaries. I can help you with that. I can help you manage those feelings in your body. But the truth is that every time you break a boundary, you are training people to expect you to keep breaking them.
00:11:24.860 --> 00:11:30.360 "Oh, she said yes last time, I'm sure it's fine this time. Don't worry, I'll just talk her into it.It'll be great."
00:11:31.990 --> 00:11:39.960 I'm going to say this again. I think this is really important. Every time you break a boundary, you are training people to expect you to keep breaking them.
00:11:40.490 --> 00:11:43.429 You are teaching them how to treat you.
00:11:44.490 --> 00:12:10.390 So that means in order to unteach them, you have to change what you do. So what will actually help you feel confident enough to do this, to feel really calm in your body without guilt, and to be present in your life? Because really, when push comes to shove, it's not about wanting to never do anything for anyone. It's not about, you know, you being mean or anything else. It's really just about you wanting to have some peace in your own life.
00:12:10.520 --> 00:12:19.950 And you think right now that saying yes is keeping you in control of everybody else, and how they see you. But that's not true. It's just keeping you stuck.
00:12:20.590 --> 00:12:22.959 Real control comes from saying no.
00:12:23.230 --> 00:12:29.329 And not in a hateful, spiteful, "I don't ever want to do anything for anyone else" way. It's a strategic no.
00:12:29.640 --> 00:12:32.719 And it starts with knowing what's important to you.
00:12:33.330 --> 00:12:44.410 So we're going to do a step-by-step way that you can start setting boundaries without feeling guilty. And this goes back to what your values are and what is important to you, so that you know where to set these boundaries.
00:12:44.620 --> 00:12:59.160 You don't have to have them on everything. You really don't, but there are some that you have to have, and they have to be rock solid. So you need to be clear, and step one is, get clear on what's non-negotiable for you. Know yourself. Know your values.
00:12:59.580 --> 00:13:12.370 Know what builds your energy, what gets you excited. What makes you feel like a great human being? What makes you feel like an incredible part of this world? If you don't know those things, we need to talk.
00:13:12.500 --> 00:13:14.969 Because that's where boundary setting starts.
00:13:15.190 --> 00:13:16.979 Get clear on your non-negotiables.
00:13:17.320 --> 00:13:22.170 Step 2: Practice, practice without overexplaining.
00:13:22.270 --> 00:13:28.349 When someone asks you to watch their dog, and you say, "I'm sorry, I can't do that for the weekend."
00:13:28.880 --> 00:13:49.720 That's enough. You don't have to say, "Well, really, I mean, I'll probably have to go to my kids' T-ball game on Saturday, and then when I get home, you know, I usually clean the house, and well, we might go out for dinner, and then Sunday, you know, we've got church, and we've got all this stuff." They don't need your schedule.

00:13:49.890 --> 00:13:50.660 That's all.

00:13:51.120 --> 00:13:59.239 That not overexplaining part is just you trying to justify the reason you said no to yourself, not to them. They do not care. Just no.

00:13:59.840 --> 00:14:05.760 Okay, step 3, and you will get more of this the more you explain: Expect pushback.

00:14:06.270 --> 00:14:15.109 If your boss asks you to stay late for the next 5 nights in a row, so that you can work on some idea that he has, and you're like, "No," expect pushback.

00:14:15.320 --> 00:14:25.500 They want what they want, and you want what you want. It doesn't make you bad. You have to hold the line, though, otherwise you're teaching them that it's okay to do it again. "No, I'm sorry, I can't do that."

00:14:25.850 --> 00:14:36.829 "I have to go home. I'm going home. I can't do it. I'd be happy to talk with you while I'm at work for the however many hours I'm there during the day. Love to. I think it's a great idea, actually. But it can't happen after work."

00:14:37.740 --> 00:14:42.149 So this balance isn't really about making everyone happy, is it?

00:14:42.520 --> 00:14:53.850 It's about creating space for what matters for you, so that you have balance in your life, because when you create that balance, you are giving yourself more time to say yes to the things that bring you joy,

00:14:53.850 --> 00:15:17.710 that you're brilliant at, that still help other people, that give to the world, that make this world a better place to be, without you feeling resentful and angry and tired and grouchy, because everything that you say no to is a yes to something else. And when you say no to something that you feel guilty about, you're also giving a yes to somebody else. You're allowing them to say yes for something that maybe they're excited about that you don't care about.

00:15:18.360 --> 00:15:32.549 This was always my case on field trips. "You want to go on a field trip?" I'm like, "God, not really." No, somebody else was like, "I never get to go. I'm so grateful!" It always works out. If it's not for you, you know it. You just have to feel good enough about yourself to trust yourself.

00:15:33.030 --> 00:15:41.009 So let's talk about how I can help you figure out where you need to create these boundaries and where things are getting wiggly. I have a new tool that I'm using with people.

00:15:41.120 --> 00:16:02.030 It's called the Balance and Boundaries Audit. It takes half an hour. We can do it over the phone, or we can do it on Zoom. And it is a total game changer for people who tend to overthink and lose their boundaries. This is what it is. It is just a simple... I want you to answer me on a scale of 1 to 10 questionnaire of different categories in your life.

00:16:02.400 --> 00:16:19.299 Okay, let's talk about your mental health. Where do you feel like that is right now? Is it a 1, where it's like tanked? It's awful. I barely get out of bed, or is it a 10, where you're like, "Are you kidding me? My life's freaking amazing. I'm happy. I'm confident. I'm calm. I feel great. I've got peace with all these emotions."

00:16:19.460 --> 00:16:28.530 You just tell me where you are on that scale, and then I'll say, "Okay, tell me more." And I'm just going to listen to what you say, so that we can get really clear on what's going well in your life and what's not.

00:16:31.610 --> 00:16:42.030 Let's figure it out. Let's talk about where that goes. It goes really quick, because I don't want you to overthink any of this. I want you to go with your gut. So we're going to talk about where your time and your energy are going.

00:16:42.480 --> 00:16:46.500 We're going to talk about what's draining you.

00:16:46.610 --> 00:17:02.139 Where are you saying yes when you don't want to? Why? What's that emotion about? Tell me more. Tell me what you think about when you say yes to that. I'm just going to ask you some questions, and we're going to know...you're going to know exactly where you need to start setting boundaries and what needs your attention ASAP.

00:17:02.620 --> 00:17:28.590 Okay? If this continues to go on, you're just going to feel more burnout, more exhausted, more resentful. And you're going to get deeper into that cycle of overthinking and people pleasing without being able to get out. The sooner you put those boundaries around, the sooner you have the energy and the brain space to say, "Okay, wait a second. Now I know what I need to do," and you can focus on the things that really need your attention and let the other stuff go.

00:17:28.700 --> 00:17:49.049 This audit is totally free. It is not a sales call or a coaching consultation. I want to be really clear about that. This is not a call to talk to you about coaching. I'm happy to do that. I would love to do that, but that's a separate thing. This audit is just to help you get clear on what's working, what's not, and what needs your attention.

00:17:49.310 --> 00:18:14.439 It takes about a half hour, and it's so simple. You're going to go to my web page. Okay, so you're going to go to my website. Sorry, Megan Devito, M-E-G-A-N-D-E-V-I-T-O dot com. It is the homepage. It's a brand new homepage. It's got like a cup of coffee and a white tile wall on it, and it says, "Click here to schedule." You're going to click that button, and it's going to bring up a calendar. You're just going to pick a time, and you're going to show up on a call with me.

00:18:14.490 --> 00:18:25.790 And you're going to get some great insight to what you need to do now. At the end of it, if you're like, "Whoa, wait. You just told me all this. I have no idea how to start." Then we can talk about coaching later.

00:18:26.070 --> 00:18:30.809 Okay. But on this call, it's not a...it's not a sales call. It's not a consultation call.

00:18:31.200 --> 00:18:43.649 So in this example, though, of like going in and saying, "Okay, I'm... I'm..." Maybe you say, "I need help with this later. Let's just talk about how coaching would help with that," so that you're aware. Okay.

00:18:43.940 --> 00:19:04.319 Let's... I mean, honestly, you can Google anything. I've said this in almost every podcast episode. Googling and knowing is not the problem, right? What you need to know, though, is

00:19:04.319 --> 00:19:16.470 a step-by-step way to set boundaries around the specific areas of your life. That's much bigger than an audit. That is a coaching situation. So if it were that easy for you, just to Google it, you would have already done it, right? I mean, obviously, we can Google and ChatGPT anything. If it were that easy, you would have done it.

00:19:16.470 --> 00:19:18.160 But finding those thoughts that are sticky, finding those habits that are sticky, that's a coaching situation. If that's where you want to go after the audit, great, we can talk about that.

00:19:18.570 --> 00:19:32.280 Let's talk about also how coaching provides you accountability and support and real life strategies that are tailored to you. I do not have, like, a box of macaroni and cheese where it comes out the exact same for everyone every time. Coaching, that's not me.

00:19:32.280 --> 00:19:48.699 It would be really hard for me to check you on your stress and anxiety, and check someone else on theirs, and check someone else on theirs, using the exact same questions in the exact same order. I don't do that. So coaching provides you accountability so that we can say, "Hey, that boundary? Did you hold it?"

00:19:48.700 --> 00:19:53.779 "What were you thinking when you said yes when you wanted to say no? Tell me more. Let's...let's see what it was like."

00:19:53.940 --> 00:20:03.829 So we have the accountability. You'll have support because we're going to come up with systems that work for you, and you're going to have strategies that fit your life, your...you know, your circumstances. So,

00:20:03.830 --> 00:20:25.769 I have a couple of different ways that you can do coaching. Again, this is different than the audit. But I have one, it's a group, it's called Ambitious Overthinkers Anonymous. It's AOA. This is a group coaching situation. It is $50 a month for a 3-month introductory package. You can sign up for that on my website right now, you just go to the Ambitious Overthinkers tab underneath "Work with Me."

00:20:25.770 --> 00:20:31.110 Go there, sign up. You can be in the group. It's a monthly membership. You can stay as long as you want.

00:20:31.180 --> 00:21:00.379 But for right now, you can do, like, if you're listening to this when the episode first comes out, you can get 3 months for 150 bucks. Every Monday I come on, and I teach you a lesson about some topic related to, let's see, stress, anxiety, overwhelm, burnout, people pleasing, boundaries. You know, how...what are the best books that you can read? What are the best things you can do this week? Or this...this week? Today, actually, I just recorded the fourth week, and it's all about goals, like, why should you even do them?

00:21:00.380 --> 00:21:10.250 What about when you don't like them at all? How do you handle the fear of being like a failure if you don't reach them? It's all on there, so that's all live, and it's all recorded. You can watch it anytime you want.

00:21:10.790 --> 00:21:30.540 The second thing that happens in AOA is that on Wednesdays we do group coaching. So you come in, you bring all your questions from the class that we had on Monday, and you ask them. And you say, "I do not understand how I'm ever going to make this goal. I'm terrified of it." Let's figure out why. And then, if you want to go into other issues in your life, absolutely, you can bring those to group coaching.

00:21:30.700 --> 00:21:44.099 We have a forum. We have a chat on the app. And you get to post all of your successes. You can share pictures of your dogs. You can do all of that stuff, and as we grow, we will continue to do more fun things, like book studies, retreats, all that kind of good stuff.

00:21:44.100 --> 00:22:07.299 So that was the first option of coaching. The second one is just my traditional one-on-one coaching where you get me one-on-one once a week for 24 weeks. That's also available if you go to the Work With Me tab on my website. And if you want to talk more about what either of those things look like, schedule a time to talk with me. I'll just jump on the phone and you can ask me all your questions, and I'll tell you what coaching is like.

00:22:07.300 --> 00:22:31.299 You can decide if you like me, I'll decide if you're the right kind of client for me, and if I'm the right coach for you, and we can go from there. But for right now, I am going to invite you to join me in this Balance and Boundaries Audit, because it is so powerful in helping you just get that starting point, and seeing that, you know what, not everything is falling to pieces in your life. There's a lot of things that are going on that are really, really great. And here are the things that could use some attention.

00:22:31.300 --> 00:22:52.230 We all need that audit. I've done it on so many people that have zero interest in coaching, and they're still like, "Oh my gosh, I'm so glad I did that." So I hope you will say yes to that. It's such a powerful tool, and I'm so excited to be able to bring it to you. So if you're tired of feeling exhausted, you're stretched too thin, and you're stuck in overthinking mode, this is the time to say yes to doing something different.

00:22:52.410 --> 00:23:00.430 Step one is to go take that Balance and Boundaries Audit. It's half an hour. Whatever you want to do, whenever you want to do it, get on there, let's do it.

00:23:00.870 --> 00:23:19.340 Step two is to talk with me about what you want to do if you need more support, if you want to go to Ambitious Overthinkers, or you want to go to more of a Confidence Catalyst call where we can talk about what one-on-one coaching is like. Either one of those things is great, but for right now, I just want to say thank you.

00:23:19.460 --> 00:23:28.389 Thank you so much for listening. Thank you for sharing this episode with other people who could use this audit, or who could really use help in getting themselves unstuck.

00:23:28.660 --> 00:23:33.859 That's what I'm here to do. I'm so excited about being able to do all these things, and...

00:23:34.330 --> 00:23:47.540 Guys, just thank you so much. I'm so grateful for every single time that you listen to this...to this podcast. So remember, you are not here to be everything for everyone. You are here to live a life that feels good to you, that benefits all of society.

00:23:47.930 --> 00:23:50.290 And you can do both of those things at the same time.

00:23:50.540 --> 00:24:02.890 Boundaries are not walls, they are flexible, and they are doors to the life that you actually want to live. So you get to choose. Let's figure out where to start with on that audit, and if I don't talk to you this week, I will talk to you next week. Take care!